In case you didn't know, life really sucks sometimes.Be nice to people who are going through whatever totally horrible sad and stressful thing. They need your love and kindness more than your advice. If they ask for your advice or opinion, then they want it. Otherwise, please keep your opinions and advice to yourself. You will be saving your friend from having a moment (or more) of hating you for being a know-it-all buttinski.
When you have your crisis you can do it any old way you see fit. And feel any kind of way you want.